When Love Feels Like a Storm

Not all prisons have walls.

Some are built from apologies, promises, and fleeting moments of peace.

Love, then anger. Peace, then chaos.

A moment of tenderness, followed by a storm.

It’s a cycle.

A pattern designed to keep you trapped.

The calm after the storm.

The apology. The gift. The promise to change.

It feels real. You want to believe it.

But then, without warning, the tension builds again.

The anger rises. The abuse returns.

You tread carefully, trying to keep the peace.

But no matter how hard you try, the eruption comes.

Shouting, threats, manipulation — or worse.

Then, just as quickly, the softness returns.

They’re sorry. They didn’t mean it. They love you.

And so the cycle repeats.

This isn’t love. This is control.

It’s a game of power. A pattern of manipulation.

And the moments of peace?

They’re long enough to keep you hoping.

Just enough to keep you holding on.

You feel exhausted. Confused. Stuck.

You start questioning yourself.

Maybe if you try harder, the love will stay.

But this isn’t your fault — and this isn’t love.

Naming & Breaking the Cycle

The moment you recognise the pattern, you begin to loosen its grip.

Start by naming it.

The calm, the tension, the explosion, the apology.

Write it down.

See it for what it is.

The peace isn’t real — it’s part of the cycle.

A way to keep you holding onto hope.

You are worthy of peace that lasts.

Not fleeting moments between storms.

Recognising the cycle is the first act of resistance — and the first step toward freedom.

What Comes After Leaving

Leaving an abusive relationship is terrifying.

It can feel more terrifying than staying.

You thought walking away would bring peace.

But instead, it opened the floodgates.

Now you're left holding emotions you never had space to feel.

The pain. The fear. The grief.

All the things your nervous system tucked away so you could survive.

When you were in it, your body adapted.

You weren’t fighting or fleeing; you were frozen.

But still moving.

Caring for others. Getting through the day. Surviving.

Now that you’re safe, your body is handing those emotions back — one by one.

And it’s overwhelming.

Healing Happens in Rhythm

If it feels like too much, pause.

Place a hand over your heart and whisper, “I am safe now.”

This small gesture tells your body you don’t have to carry it all at once.

Healing doesn’t happen in a rush — it happens in rhythm.

Moment by moment. Breath by breath.

This isn’t a breakdown.

It’s a return.

You’re not falling apart.

You’re finally coming back to yourself.

One step at a time, you can learn to hold what arises.

To process. To release. To reclaim yourself.

What’s one feeling you’ve been afraid to let yourself feel?

If this is the part of the journey you’re in, we’re here to walk alongside you.

You don’t have to do it alone — reach out when you’re ready.

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